What should we talk about today?
I was thinking the ‘habit of comparing yourself to others? (friends, family members or social media users)’ as many including myself tend to do.
Personally, this seems like an important and crucial topic to touch on, particularly with the extensive and growing use of social media. It has been said that there are 700 million users on Instagram (Statista), 328 million on Twitter (Statista), over 160 million users on Snapchat etc. I’m sure you get the picture but if not, let me just say this, social media is taking over our world people! Of course, there are many advantages of it. It can be viewed as an online portfolio, a platform to meet new people, connect with individuals worldwide, and mainly as a source of entertainment and news. However, everyday we wake up, we check our phones for any notifications from either those we know or on social media. We come across posts created by individuals we look up to, like, comment on their images and sometimes even screenshot/save these pictures. Well, in my opinion, this can become very damaging for ones self-confidence/esteem. Do you sometimes wish you had what they have? Their features, characteristics, garments, social life, followers, talents or career? To be honest, I wouldn’t blame you and I don’t. I am also a victim of this.
“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.”
― Shannon L. Alder
Millions of users are religiously utilising these online platforms, broadcasting their ‘lifestyles’, exhibiting their luxurious items, showcasing ‘squad’ and portraying this specific image of themselves. Remember the saying, ‘don’t believe everything you read’, well do not believe everything you see on social media either! Each user has the power to exhibit whatever they like. The objective of social media is to basically advertising yourself with hopes of acquiring numerous likes, comments and attention from others. Rather than querying what it is you’re personally lacking in comparison to those you witness on social media, ask yourself this.
Is this really their lifestyle? If I was to meet this person in the outside world, will they look as good as they portray on Instagram? Did they buy the item, take an image and return it straight away? (many do this on the low!) Is squad really squad or just for image because they have the same numbers of followers and likes?
I’ve come to realise that not everything is what it seems. You do not know what happens behind closed doors, therefore should not be so quick to want to be someone else or have their life. But most importantly, comparison is simply the thief of joy.
It is essential to remember:
- Each of us have talents and characteristics that make us unique. It is impossible to find another you, and I mean this. One may acquire the same talent as you but the way in which the talents are utilised are very different. I say find this talent, and stick to it. That’s what makes you, you.
- Remember this, you’ve got a purpose. Every single one of us on this earth has a purpose. We were brought onto this planet for a reason, whether we know it or not. It is just about identifying what this is and ensuring you make the best out of it in life.
- Timing is everything, and I can’t stress this enough! You can possibly receive all you’ve ever wanted now (career, money et al) or in a couple of years but THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOUR TIME WILL NEVER COME. I know, someone you admire has everything you desire but the real questions are, are they ready for all that responsibility? How long will it last?
You will experience trials and tribulations which are blessings in disguise, but it is essential to reveal that everything does happen for a reason. Unfortunately some may not believe this, but I really do.
- Nobody is perfect and that is a fact. We all go through our own shit.
So rather than comparing yourself to others, compare yourself now to a couple of months ago. How much have you achieved? Made any advancements? Worked on your craft? On yourself? When I say yourself, i’m talking about physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. And if you haven’t then please do not be afraid to start. It all starts with being confident in yourself, your abilities, knowing your worth and no longer fearing to put yourself out there on the large platform. You are incomparable and must know it in your heart and soul.
“Whatever your passion is, keep doing it. Don’t waste time chasing after success or comparing yourself to others. Every flower blooms at a different pace. Excel at doing what your passion is and only focus on perfecting it. Eventually people will see what you are great at doing, and… success will come chasing after you.”
― Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem