COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS.

What should we talk about today?

I was thinking the ‘habit of comparing yourself to others? (friends, family members or social media users)’ as many including myself tend to do.

Personally, this seems like an important and crucial topic to touch on, particularly with the extensive and growing use of social media. It has been said that there are 700 million users on Instagram (Statista), 328 million on Twitter (Statista), over 160 million users on Snapchat etc. I’m sure you get the picture but if not, let me just say this, social media is taking over our world people! Of course, there are many advantages of it. It can be viewed as an online portfolio, a platform to meet new people, connect with individuals worldwide, and mainly as a source of entertainment and news. However, everyday we wake up, we check our phones for any notifications from either those we know or on social media. We come across posts created by individuals we look up to, like, comment on their images and sometimes even screenshot/save these pictures. Well, in my opinion, this can become very damaging for ones self-confidence/esteem. Do you sometimes wish you had what they have? Their features, characteristics, garments, social life, followers, talents or career? To be honest, I wouldn’t blame you and I don’t. I am also a victim of this.

“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.”

― Shannon L. Alder

Millions of users are religiously utilising these online platforms, broadcasting their ‘lifestyles’, exhibiting their luxurious items, showcasing ‘squad’ and portraying this specific image of themselves. Remember the saying, ‘don’t believe everything you read’, well do not believe everything you see on social media either! Each user has the power to exhibit whatever they like. The objective of social media is to basically advertising yourself with hopes of acquiring numerous likes, comments and attention from others. Rather than querying what it is you’re personally lacking in comparison to those you witness on social media, ask yourself this.

Is this really their lifestyle? If I was to meet this person in the outside world, will they look as good as they portray on Instagram? Did they buy the item, take an image and return it straight away? (many do this on the low!) Is squad really squad or just for image because they have the same numbers of followers and likes?

I’ve come to realise that not everything is what it seems. You do not know what happens behind closed doors, therefore should not be so quick to want to be someone else or have their life. But most importantly, comparison is simply the thief of joy.

It is essential to remember:

  1. Each of us have talents and characteristics that make us unique. It is impossible to find another you, and I mean this. One may acquire the same talent as you but the way in which the talents are utilised are very different. I say find this talent, and stick to it. That’s what makes you, you.
  2. Remember this, you’ve got a purpose. Every single one of us on this earth has a purpose. We were brought onto this planet for a reason, whether we know it or not. It is just about identifying what this is and ensuring you make the best out of it in life.
  3. Timing is everything, and I can’t stress this enough! You can possibly receive all you’ve ever wanted now (career, money et al) or in a couple of years but THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOUR TIME WILL NEVER COME. I know, someone you admire has everything you desire but the real questions are, are they ready for all that responsibility? How long will it last?

    You will experience trials and tribulations which are blessings in disguise, but it is essential to reveal that everything does happen for a reason. Unfortunately some may not believe this, but I really do.

  4. Nobody is perfect and that is a fact. We all go through our own shit.

So rather than comparing yourself to others, compare yourself now to a couple of months ago. How much have you achieved? Made any advancements? Worked on your craft? On yourself? When I say yourself, i’m talking about physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. And if you haven’t then please do not be afraid to start. It all starts with being confident in yourself, your abilities, knowing your worth and no longer fearing to put yourself out there on the large platform. You are incomparable and must know it in your heart and soul.

In short:

“Whatever your passion is, keep doing it. Don’t waste time chasing after success or comparing yourself to others. Every flower blooms at a different pace. Excel at doing what your passion is and only focus on perfecting it. Eventually people will see what you are great at doing, and… success will come chasing after you.”


― Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem

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The Girl In The Red Jumpsuit

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Jacket: New Look  Sandal Heels: New Look    Jumpsuit: Wood Green 

Hey guys,

If you’re a resident in the UK then you know the different seasons we’ve been currently experiencing. One minute it’s sunny, the next it’s raining. Well luckily this day, I caught the sun and took advantage of the moment. Doing so, I wore a red jumpsuit which I must say is extremely comfortable regardless of the tight fit. It was paired with simplistic black sandal heels, and a white puffer jacket.

Unfortunately, I do not remember where the jumpsuit was purchased from but here are similar alternatives for you:

PETITE ROSALYN BANDEAU WIDE LEG JUMPSUIT

RED CREPE HIGH NECK TIE CULOTTE JUMPSUIT

RED WRAP BARDOT JUMPSUIT

WIDE LEG CHIFFON JUMPSUIT 

 

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Hope you like the look!

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Travel Diaries: Morocco

Last summer, a group of friends and I decided to go on a little holiday to Morocco! During my time in the country; I was able to learn a lot about their culture, visit such stunning places and do what I do best, eat. I honestly enjoyed every part of my vacation, very honoured to have captured the places I have visited and my experience in Morocco.

I hope you like the photographs as much as I enjoyed taking them!

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Raissa Coulibaly x Carla Aurelie

img_0353img_0355img_0377img_0390img_0419      Bodysuit: Primark   |   Skirt: H&M   |    Jacket: New Look   |    Shoes: Solewish

 

img_0341-1img_0345img_0393img_0413Top: Bershka   | Trousers: Bershka |  Jacket: Pull & Bear   | Shoes: Ego

Now this is different to any other post that I have ever done. Why? Well its a collaboration with another blogger/youtuber that goes by the name Carla Aurelie.

Guys when I say this girl is a character, it’s unbelievable. I think you’ll only understand once you watch her youtube videos, she’s hilarious. Fairly new to youtube, she currently has over 100 subscribers, more than 3000 views on her videos and several comments from others admiring both her style and personality.

What’s even better about it all is that we’re family! We decided to collaborate and take advantage of this moment since we haven’t seen each other in yearsss. So we met up, went out to eat and literally had a fun day out!

For this reason, my attire had to be just right! I wanted it to be comfortable, simple but also cute at the same time which is why I went for a bodysuit with a midi skirt, khaki coat and matching heeled boots from Solewish. Guys I really want more of these heels but damn they hurt lmfao. I recommend purchasing some insoles for them because they are some killer heels.

I’ve honestly come to the conclusion that these heels are for image, nothing else! Trying to sell us dreams.

Either way do check out my girls social media sites and YouTube channel, I promise you’ll love it!

Twitter: Carlaurelie

Instagram: Carlaaurelie

YouTube: Carla Aurelie

Website: https://theaurelieway.squarespace.com

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How To Wear A Jumpsuit !

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Jumpsuit – Asos            Glasses – Walthamstow Mall            Trainers – Sports Direct

Choker – Asos                       Necklace – New Look

Hi loves,

I know its been a while since I’ve made a blog post but I’ve honestly been so busy! I’m constantly working which is tiring the hell out of me, writing for Yahoo Style and Solewish as well adds on to the stress as I’m trying my best to balance everything. I don’t know how our parents manage balance everything and make it look easy, honestly! On top of it all, I’m trying to go to the gym as often as I can which knocks me out immediately.

Its life though right? Just have to learn to manage it all and find a way to make it work for me which is something I’m trying to do now!

Enough of that though, it’s time to go back to the topic. My mum treated me to a nice day out the other day in Oxford Street where we were able to do some shoppinggg. Now everyone knows, shopping with your mum is the best as you can literally buy as many things as you want! So obviously for this reason, I had to make sure I looked cute and take advantage of the day by taking photographs for this blog. When I say I was receiving so many compliments on this outfit, had people ask where the jumpsuit was from etc. The way I kept grinning from ear to ear lmfao. The fit is amazing, I love the colour, it’s so comfortable and it was definitely worth £40! It was only right to match it with my pink choker and grey and pink trainers for it to compliment the look.

Wait we can’t forget about the glasses though, are they not stunning?! I bought two for £20 and lord they are worth it!

Raissa Coulibaly x

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01.47 am thoughts.

 

This post is quite different to the other ones I’ve created, it’s more personal. Honestly, this is because one night I was extremely in my feelings and started writing. Now if you are anything like me and constantly bottle your feelings up, I really hope you get something out of this. The post has permitted to acknowledge a lot about myself and the changes that need to be made. So here we go.

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It is currently 01:47 am and I feel like all I can do at the moment is write. Write about what’s on my mind and what is honestly troubling me.

I’ve always known that I’ve had really bad trust issues but to see it unfold at the moment is quite upsetting. Honestly I do not want to be like this all the time. I want to be able to put trust my in people without the fear of them breaking it. It takes a lot for me to get close to someone. I can be talking to people, getting to know them but when it comes to me opening up about my feelings, I chicken out immediately. All that may be said on my part will be very brief. It has become clear that it’s something I have troubles with. I just can’t do it. It is very important for me to know how much I can trust you before getting close to you and tell you things about myself. I don’t like to talk about my feelings or what’s on my mind.

Evidently this is due to events that have occurred in the past but don’t get me wrong I have always been a private person. I’m never one to talk about my problem to others whatsoever. I bottle everything up. Whether I like it or not, I just can’t stop it. I do not like smothering others with my issues especially if I feel as if I can handle it all alone. I’ve done it before so why not do it again right? Well wrong. This really isn’t healthy at all! I’ve found myself crying alone, making sure my cries are never heard. Even writing this right now is killing me. I don’t know whether or not I will actually post this but I find that writing about my issues help. It wasn’t purposely planned for me to be writing this as a post but best believe it feels right at the moment. Lorrrddd i even downloaded a secret diary app just so I can write about my feelings lol but it just didn’t feel right. I’m sure I have rambled on for a while now but let me just say this, yes there are some people I can trust. I just personally can’t bring myself to message them and talk about my dilemmas. It is extremely hard.

I’ve learnt that as a Leo, I tend to always appear fine and have a smile on my face regardless of how I’m feeling. The fear of being judged gets to best of me and this needs to stop! It’s alright to talk to others about my problems, it’s normal. I am human after all right? So from now on this is something I will be strongly working on.